Thursday, April 2, 2009

Keeping.


Sometimes I wish life came with instructions. Or perhaps... just guidelines. LOL.

I've been keeping something a secret. Actually, we both have. For about five weeks. That's a long time to keep a secret.

But I was talking (over a month ago) to a friend of mine, and she told me something her mom has been telling her for her whole life. She said to me, "There is no one way to make a relationship work. You simply find a way that works for you. You find a way; and it may be unconventional... but you make it work."

This hit me. Hit me like a ton of bricks. I went home and wrote about 15 pages in my journal. And the next day? My husband and I talked. And then... five weeks after leaving, he came home.

That was over a month ago.

As I start to tell people, more and more opinions come out. Some good. Some bad. But you know what? It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter to me. It doesn't matter to him. It doesn't matter to us. We want to be married to each other, and we are making that work. Sure it takes a lot of work. Every relationship does. We know this. We've been together for over eight years.

And we have a LOT of fun together. We smile a lot. We laugh even more. We hug more times in one day than I bet most people hug in a month. We are relaxed. We are calm. We are happy.

I feel loved. I feel adored. I feel special. I feel cherished. And I haven't felt that... in a very long time.

9 comments:

Jaime Lynne said...

You deserve to feel all those wonderful feelings and more. Do what is best for you and keep up the WORK!

karen m. (akaliz) said...

so sweet! it's so wonderful that you have found a way to make it work. congrats!

AndreaS said...

sometimes realizing what you can lose, makes it even better than it once was- you look so happy =)

vtpuggirl said...

That's wonderful! I love second chances, and happy endings! Glad it's working out!

Lyn said...

What a wonderful update! Your photo shows just how happy the two of you are! Sending lots more happiness your way now and always!
Thanks for visiting my blog and your kind words! All of the cute dresses are from Old Navy!

Houston said...

I heard a quote last night that went something along the lines of... you never know when you are at the start of, in the middle of, or at the end of a miracle. It sounds like you are right in the middle. Enjoy the love.

Dalon said...

thank you for shring this post - it is wonderful and just what I need to hear right now ;-) my husband and I have two young boys - I'm home with them a-l-l d-a-y l-o-n-g while he works hard to care for us - we've been together over 10 years and this is truly the most difficult time we have ever had ... many times I wonder how we're going to get through this ... together ... and now I know - thanks :-)

Jacquie said...

Happiness is the most important thing...take care of your personal happiness.

It was great to see you!

Kathy said...

I'm so happy for you Reyanna and happy that you are both happy.
Take care of each other.